Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.
I’ve been meditating on this concept for a while now in my spiritual life because it seems that there is a growing trend in our culture that says if we are a true friend to somebody we will support them no matter what. Our culture says that it is wrong to speak the truth into another person’s life because their truth may be different from our truth. Our culture says to live and let live. Our culture says to let everybody be who they feel like they are and not to impose any standard upon anybody else.
I believe as Christians we are called to live differently. We are called to truth – God’s truth. We are called to sharpen one another. We are called to live in community and do life with one another. And thus, there is sometimes conflict in relationship because of it. We hold each other accountable, we hold each other to a higher standard, we speak the truth in love when we see our brother or sister going off the right path.
I love the above verse because I believe it speaks to how we should live as Christians. Not that we are to wound our friends, but that if we are a true friend we will speak the truth – despite wounds it may cause. Anybody can tell somebody what they want to hear, anybody can flatter somebody. Yet, if we surround ourselves with people who multiply kisses (only flatter us), we will never become the people we were meant to be, will never be challenged. Thus, these people are our enemies. They do not make us better, they do not help us grow closer to God or grow in maturity.
I pray that I will be a person who can receive truth from Godly friends and who turns away from flattery of enemies. I pray that I will be a person who will speak Godly truth into friends’ lives and not be one who does them no good by multiplying kisses. I pray that you will join me on this journey as well!